Stephen Fowler: Wife-Swap Video

February 12, 2009
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Stephen Fowler, appearing on the ABC reality TV series ‘Wife Swap,’ has drawn widespread scorn for fulfilling every imaginable stereotype of an upper class intellectual snob. See video here and find out more about the uproar.




The popular TV series has a simple premise; two families with very different values take part in a two week challenge in which the wives exchange husbands (but no, not the bedroom) and children and find out first-hand what it is like to live the lifestyle of another woman. For both viewers and participants it is an eye-opening experience and usually makes for entertaining viewing.

With the swap of Stephen Fowler, 49, and his wife Renee Foster, 43, and Alan Long, 38, and his wife Gayla Long, 37, the clash in culture and values is staggering.

The Long family lives in a Missouri town of 55 (of which the husband is mayor) and is passionately patroitic. The family has invested thousands of dollars in paintball equipment, which is their main obsession and riding ATVs running a close second. They subsist on fast food and the typical American diet and the children are already overweight as is the mother.

In contrast, Stephen Fowler is a British born venture capitalist and environmental entrepreneur who, along with his wife, Renee Foster, a “certified hypnotherapist/life coach” are millionaires living in San Francisco in an environmentally friendly home, favor organic foods, and send their children to a bi-lingual international school where they are taught in both French and English, with the goal of making them highly educated “citizens of the world.”

The controversy and the attention stems the outrageous and abusive statements Stephen Fowler makes about the new wife, Gayla, who he frequently insults because she is overweight and does not have a higher education. The contempt he shows openly towards her is blistering; he says she speaks two languages “bad English and redneck” (and that is one of the milder insults).

There are some comedic moments, such as when Gayla gets back at Stephen by demanding that he sing the national anthem and not use big words. But overall, Stephen Fowler’s contemptuousness is unrelenting and he seems to take delight in every opportunity to call Gayla low class and uneducated. Eventually, the two-week period was cut short and Gayla moved into a hotel after Stephen contacted the show’s producers in an attempt to end the swap.

Meanwhile in Long household, the clash in values progressed with more civility. Renee Foster is at one point driven to tears seeing the unhealthy eating habits of the family and the inevitable consequence, that some of the sons are overweight. The husband insists the family eats meat and potatoes and one of the sons mockingly chimes in that the family does not eat grass or hay or anything else that animal would eat. She tries to get them to do exercise but must first convince them that riding an ATV is not a form of exercise. With her more empathetic and non-confrontational approach, she was able to make progress in helping the family.

It is Stephen Fowler’s behavior that created a critical mass of public outrage, filling Internet forums, blogs and spawning Web Sites such as StephenFosterSucks.com and he issued a public apology on his wife’s Web site. He has also resigned from some of the environmental nonprofit boards of which he was a member. Additionally, his wife also issued a public apology.

You can read the full text of both apologies here.

Watch video below.















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9 Responses to “Stephen Fowler: Wife-Swap Video”

  1. 1
    K Says:

    He is an ABUSER!!!

    There was a very telling moment for me that says it all about the Fowler marriage; the moment when Mrs. Fowler asked Mr. Long if he was going to hit her after she disagreed with him. Never mind how his children were afraid to say they were having fun, were visibly terrified of their own father.

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    Kyle Says:

    Mr. Fowler is disgusting! Let’s spread the word about this piece of filth and perhaps Britain will take back their garbage! Mrs. Fowler, I only hope and pray that you are not as dispicable and erratic as your husband. Never have I seen such behavior…by an adult!

  3. 3
    Lea Says:

    “Sir Fowler” is on really a high horse! I was married to a Brit and let me inform you a little about their country. They have PLENTY of their own “red neck” types there and highly believe in in-breeding, a.k.a. “The Royal Family”! Aside from the wealthier city of London, there is a PLETHORA of little villages filled with council flats inhabited by the unemployed complete with no education, terrible hygiene, and a diet consisting of all fried foods. These are the reasons why Mr. High Horse fled that side of the pond in the first place! He deserves every derogatory slur made up about him. And he is proof that no matter how “educated” one is and how vast of an intellect one has, if you’re a prick and a jerk then a big vocabulary will only get you so far. I hope some “hillbilly red neck whips the tar outta him”!

  4. 4
    kim Says:

    Alan Long is just as much of a jerk as Fowler. “Skirt work”–yeah right.

  5. 5
    sbq Says:

    This guy is disgusting, he needs help. His dumb wife needs to leave him.

  6. 6
    Michele Says:

    I wouldn’t spit on either of the Fowlers if they were on fire.

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    Sandra Says:

    These people really put the “FOWL” in Fowler. I’ve never seen such arrogance in my life. It certainly shows that education and money can’t buy class–they are revolting. The wife is just as horrid as the husband. What nasty little things their children will turn out to be!

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    Joe Says:

    god, the Fowler children are horrible. They will probably grow up to be scientists and/or entrepreneurs. :::Insert sarcasm here:::

    I am embarrassed to be a Midwestern AND an environmentalist. The Long’s were straight out of Idiocracy while Stephan Fowler disgraced those who get a good education and SHOULD be standing up and helping those less fortunate. Now, if those less fortunate refuse obvious help, well……. they may be fair game.

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    Laurence Says:

    ““Sir Fowler” is on really a high horse! I was married to a Brit and let me inform you a little about their country. They have PLENTY of their own “red neck” types there and highly believe in in-breeding, a.k.a. “The Royal Family”! Aside from the wealthier city of London, there is a PLETHORA of little villages filled with council flats inhabited by the unemployed complete with no education, terrible hygiene, and a diet consisting of all fried foods. These are the reasons why Mr. High Horse fled that side of the pond in the first place! He deserves every derogatory slur made up about him. And he is proof that no matter how “educated” one is and how vast of an intellect one has, if you’re a prick and a jerk then a big vocabulary will only get you so far. I hope some “hillbilly red neck whips the tar outta him”!”

    says it all really your complaining about him yet sterotyping Britain there are no council estates in villages… London is not the only welathy part of the country and though i havnt seen the show (user removed the video on youtube) your all doing exactly what you claim he is doing and Kyle we’ll be glad to exchange him for madonna